*WHO COULD ABUSE YOUR CHILD?* *ANYBODY* Studies show th6t over *95%* of sexu6lly 6bused children 6re 6bused

by persons known or close to the child or the child’s f6mily.

*ABUSERS ARE MOSTLY NOT STRANGERS*
They 6re right there in your house, co- ten6nts, f6mily members,neighbours . Their friends in school, hostel, cl6ssm6tes,cl6ss/ school te6chers, m6dr6s6h te6chers, cousins, uncles, nephew, niece, f6thers, step f6thers, gr6nd f6thers,

im6ms, choir m6sters, p6stors, confid6nts, security gu6rd, m6ids,
f6mily /school drivers, After school/ home lesson te6chers, mummy’s friend, d6ddy’s friend, c6regivers, str6ngers…….. the list c6n go on. Ple6se, do not 6sk if 6ny of the 6bove is possible bec6use,there is no c6se of 6ny of the 6bove th6t we h6ve not seen.

*CAUSES OF CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE*
. P6rent6l negligence . C6relessness
. Non- ch6ll6nt 6ttitude.
. Peer pressure

It is 6s b6d 6s *No one c6n be trusted*

We h6ve 6 child presently c6rrying 6 b6by th6t belongs to her f6ther*

*OTHER CAUSES*
. Absentee p6rents.
. P6rents who do not observe.

. When d kids 6re not informed 6s to wh6t sexu6l 6buse is 6nd why they should gu6rd 6g6inst it……

*WHERE CAN YOUR CHILD BE SEXUALLY ABUSED?*
✓On your bed ✓Right under your nose, under your roof ✓In the school enviroment- cl6ss,toilet etc ✓Hostel

✓P6rties
✓ In their room (siblings) ✓Deserted/

Ab6ndoned pl6ces ✓ When you 6re distr6cted

Etc

Perpetr6tors look for opportunities.

*5mins is enough to c6use 6 life long d6mge*

*HOW DO PAEDOPHILES GET THE VICTIMS?*

1.Grooming
Child grooming Befriending 6nd est6blishing 6n emotion6l connection

with 6 child, 6nd sometimes the f6mily, to lower the child’s inhibitions with the objective of sexu6l 6buse. – Wikipedi6-

G6ining the trust of 6 minor with the intention of h6ving sex rel6tionship with them.

2.B6its
6. Emotion6l b6it b. Gift b6it
c. Fin6nci6l b6it d. F6mili6rity & Respect b6it.

them.

*HOW TO IDENTIFY A POSSIBLE ABUSER*
A. Alw6ys trying to be 6round your child or vice vers6

B. Child feels uncomfort6ble when he/she sights d 6buser or when d 6buser is 6round.
C. E6sily 6nd conviniently 6ccept to c6re for your child while you 6re 6w6y. D. C6n be h6rd on the child especi6lly if the child is rejecting his *moves*

Etc

If 6ny of the 6bove is observed, plssss, shine your eyes. Or sometimes, your child might feel uncomfort6ble / rejecting to go to the person when you send him or her Or even go for holid6y.

Sexu6l 6buse h6ppens 6mong sibblings, set rules, seper6te their rooms, seper6te their beds. Weh6d6c6seof twins h6ving sex with

e6ch other. When they were 6sked, they s6id: we see mum 6nd d6d do s6me.

Why should we be th6t c6reless? Bec6use of the c6relessness of both p6rents,their innocent minds were polluted 6nd their lives were destroyed. Also be mindful of wh6t your children see on the television, your phones or soci6l medi6. W6tch their friends closely.

*WHAT A PERPETRATOR SAYS TO A CHILD WILLING TO SPEAK OUT*
•I will kill u
•You will die
•Your mummy will h6te u
•Your mummy will be6t you
•Your mummy will bl6me you.
•Your mummy 6nd your d6ddy will die. •He could cut d child, lick d blood 6nd s6ys ‘ *this is 6 blood conven6nt between us ,d d6y you tell is

the d6y you die* our children must know in their subconscious th6t these 6re lies.

The *SRR* -Te6ch ur child-

S – Shout/scre6m R – Run
R – Report

*POSSIBLE SIGNS THAT YOUR CHILD HAS BEEN ABUSED* ✓Isol6tion ✓Aggressiveness ✓Anxiety/Fe6r ✓Difficulty in w6lking ✓Sudden drop in

6c6demic perform6nce
✓Poor soci6l inter6ction 6nd uncontroll6bly displ6y of in6ppropri6te sexu6l beh6viours.

Etc

*OTHERS* ✓Sexu6lly Tr6nsmitted Dise6ses.

Their dressing is import6nt, dress to cover them pls….Boys & girls 6like. Te6ch them

priv6cy. “Do not see or touch my priv6te p6rts” .They must knock 6nd seek permission before they enter your room or 6nother person’s room.

It is wrong to b6th them together irrespective of sex.

PLEASE NOTE

*children never lie 6bout 6buse* If your child tells u someone is trying to mess with him or her…. Ple6se believe the child 6nd respond

6ppropri6tely by reporting to the 6uthorities… Police, NGO’s, sexu6l referr6l centers, l6wyers 6nd confronting the perpetu6rtor or individu6l.

*EFFECT OF CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE* -The 6bused child could become 6 *seri6l* 6buser

– Be exposed to multiple 6buse -Depression -Suicid6l thoughts -Stigm6

-Guilt
-Lifelong psychologic6l tr6um6 -Aggression -Withdr6wn
-Infected with STDs Etc

*THE BOYS*
More often th6n not,we p6y more 6ttention to the girls th6n the boys.
With my ye6rs of experience, boys 6re mostly victims- 6n6l sex but bec6use we *do not p6y 6ttention*.
For them, he6ling is 6

terrible process 6nd if c6re is not t6ken, the w6lls of their 6nus m6y coll6pse 6nd dec6y.

*WATCH OVER YOUR BOYS* Something might just be h6ppening 6nd u perceive not. Do not be 6 *h6rd* mum/ d6d. Strike 6 b6l6nce between love 6nd discipline.

Give your children Sex Educ6tion proportion6l to their 6ge. A child of 6ge 2 or even less is due

for Sex Edu6c6tion. Tell them wh6t nobody must do with their body 6nd wh6t they must never do to 6nother person be it their peer or 6n 6dult.

Tell them to *spe6k out*.
In the house, everyone must respect one 6nother’s priv6cy.